“Why is such a nice person like you still single?” “Once you learn to be content, God will bring you a spouse.” “She’s so pretty, I wonder why she’s not dating?” “There’s no question why he’s not married!” Have you heard some of these comments before, or perhaps even made them yourself? A subtle but …
Scripture on Singleness
Removing the Hindrances from Singleness
Many view singleness as a limitation rather than an advantage. I’d say it’s a fairly common perspective among Christians and non-Christians alike. It’s funny how we collectively forget that Jesus was single, and certainly nothing held Him back. And we forget that the second most prominent character of the New Testament was also single, the …
False Assumptions, Part I
The other day I happened to notice several Christian romance novels on my bookshelf that have somehow survived my ruthless disposals of what I’ve considered worthless reads. I turned one over to read the description on the back cover, and once again realized why I’ve abandoned reading most romantic Christian fiction. It read: The straight-laced …
False Assumptions, Part II
In Part I, we looked at five false assumptions we tend to have regarding marriage and singleness. We stated, “If our expectations for marriage are based on false assumptions, they will become a tyrant in our lives, controlling our emotions, coloring our perspective, and eventually leaving us disillusioned, disappointed, and — worst of all — …
Complete as One
I had someone tell me years ago that one is not complete without a spouse. It made me wonder: How do I, and other single adults, gain a sense of confidence and self-worth in a society that believes such a statement to be true? Many people believe they cannot truly live until they find their …
