Marriage Good, Singleness Bad?
“Why is such a nice person like you still single?” “Once you learn to be content, God will bring you a spouse.” “She’s so pretty, I wonder why she’s not dating?” “There’s no question why he’s not married!” Have you…
Removing the Hindrances from Singleness
Many view singleness as a limitation rather than an advantage. I’d say it’s a fairly common perspective among Christians and non-Christians alike. It’s funny how we collectively forget that Jesus was single, and certainly nothing held Him back. And we…
False Assumptions, Part I
The other day I happened to notice several Christian romance novels on my bookshelf that have somehow survived my ruthless disposals of what I’ve considered worthless reads. I turned one over to read the description on the back cover, and…
False Assumptions, Part II
In Part I, we looked at five false assumptions we tend to have regarding marriage and singleness. We stated, “If our expectations for marriage are based on false assumptions, they will become a tyrant in our lives, controlling our emotions,…
Complete as One
I had someone tell me years ago that one is not complete without a spouse. It made me wonder: How do I, and other single adults, gain a sense of confidence and self-worth in a society that believes such a…
Delivered From All My Fears
Jeannie found herself staring at the digital numbers on her alarm clock once again. The luminous red lines forming the numbers which indicated it was three in the morning looked all too familiar. It seemed that her fears had no…
Man’s Research Versus God’s Word
“Oh, great,”, I thought. “Another piece of research touted by the Christian community in an attempt to shore up the crumbling institution of marriage.” It’s not that I was doubting the motive for quoting such research in the Christian magazine I…
Needs, Desires and God’s Promises
By Fern Horst “Delight thyself also in the LORD: and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.” “But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus.” (Psalm 37:4 and Phillipians…
If Singleness and Marriage are Gifts, Why Wasn’t I Given One?
A lovely woman in her mid-fifties, she sat across from me in the coffee shop, her hands resting lightly in her lap. She sat poised as one confident about her life. But her words revealed an inner turmoil. “I know…
Our Longings, God’s Fulfillment
We have many God-given longings that we’d like to have fulfilled. We often think that they can be fulfilled only by another human being. While God does use other humans to demonstrate love to us, He also wants to fulfill…
