Introductions

[Xenoglossa]

I just read the How to Register Thread, and I thought to myself "Noooooo!  I'm not spam!"

It seems my account hasn't been blocked, so I'll take this opportunity to (re)introduce myself.  (I posted on the old board under the moniker "Owl").

Why am I here? I'm single, (Surprise!), and I think this has eventuated in an orientation toward the real, (read "God"), that my married friends don't share.  I come here mostly to lurk and to gather data on how others view their singleness.

Should you find yourself reading this post, I hope it finds you well, full of the love and grace of God.

[psalm100]

Hello Everyone!!!

I am Psalm 100. I am a single female with no children. I have been single for about 7 years. It has been a battle, but I am thankful to God. I was at one point content with being single, but now the idea of marriage and children are overwhelming. I long to be married and bear children. The hardest thing for me about being single is the lonliness. If I could only get past the lonliness, it wouldn't be so bad. I look forward to conversing with you all.

[Rx]

... I look forward to conversing with you all.

Welcome, Psalm 100. I've been single for 14 years,
 strictly from a civil stand point of course
 since that is the only jurisdiction of a "civil" wedding or divorce.

Looking forward to hearing your insights.

cheers,
- Rx; phew from flying.

 PS, Grand thread this...
 If only we cud hear from everyone in it,
 like brozen sisses shud. :*

he who stands firm to the end will be saved

[psalm100]

Why isn't there not alot of participation on this particular board? I would love to post, but don't seem like I will get any responses due to low participation.

[Fern]

Go ahead and post something, Psalm100. Everyone holds back because no one else is posting, so no one posts.

Would love to hear what's on your heart.

[daynabea]

Hi everyone I"m Dayna and I"m now a single mom with three kids.  Last year I got divorced.  God really has given me grace and mercy through it.  I have returned back to school.  Just waiting to see what God has in store for my life now

[Fern]

Welcome Dayna! Hope you're able to find encouragement here in your walk with the Lord.

[Single101]

Hi All,

I like this website, very helpful.  I've just joined this discussion group. 

I'm a single male (past 30) and sometimes am happy about it, other times I'm not.  If I had a choice, I would have chosen marriage but things have never worked out.  I personally find it difficult being in a middle class church where people in their 20s are regularly getting married and many of my close friends are getting married - a painful reminder that I am on the outside looking in. 

[Hawk]

This is a pretty good site. Fern and Kelly have done a nice job running it, and many insightful observations have hit the discussion boards. The devotions have always been spot on.

I discovered PS in about late 1999. Now middle-aged and still never-married, every passing year solidifies that I'll be in that tiny percentage of the U.S. population that isn't married at some point in life. It might be fun to go out sometime, but the utter lack of prospects has me thinking that isn't possible.

[Fern]

Glad to have you back again, Hawk. 

[rarepearl4jesus]

Hi Everyone, my name is Stacey.  I'm 35 year old female and still single.  I joined because I'm looking for a singles network and discussion boards where I can connect with other singles.  There are not too many out there that is a place to meet friends.  I often wonder, just because we are single, do we have to be looking for someone to marry?...  Of course I want to marry, but just not at a place to be on dating websites right now.  I just want to connect with other singles, male and female.

Everyone have a blessed day or evening!

~Stacey~

[Single101]

Hi Stacey,

I don't think that we should be necessarily looking to get married but seeking to do God's will in whatever circumstance we are in.  I know some Christians put pressure on single people to get married - some of it is well meaning but if God's will is for us to be single, they have no right to say otherwise.  I personally find it difficult but we can choose how we are going to respond to our situation.  Ultimately it is down to God to bring couples together and not down to us.  Of course, we can facilitate it by various means (like the one you suggested), however it is no guarantee of a result.  I was hoping to be married by this time in my life but things never worked out.  The last thing I need is for Christians to heap condemnation on me for not being married (saying that i have not done enough to seek a wife as some have suggested), or to put pressure on me to get married before it's "too late". 

[rarepearl4jesus]

The last thing I need is for Christians to heap condemnation on me for not being married (saying that i have not done enough to seek a wife as some have suggested), or to put pressure on me to get married before it's "too late".

The one that gets me is the blame game.  "You must not be seeking the Lord enough", or "You just need to work on yourself", or "like attracts like, and if you are not attracting anyone, it may mean that you are not attractable", "If you delight yourself in Lord, he will give you the desires of your heart, so you must not be delighting yourself in the Lord"  (<<<  That one tied into the 'You must not be seeking the Lord enough').

I don't want to say that God has called me to be single, but I'm not saying He doesn't want me to be either.  There is a desire to be married someday.  So, I can't imagine why God would put that desire in my heart and not fulfill it.  I often ask Him that if He would want me to remain single, to take the desire from my heart to be married someday.

~Stacey~

[Fern]

Welcome to both rarepearl4jesus and Single 101! Glad you're both here and look forward to getting to know you better as we encourage and support each other.

[Hawk]

"I often wonder, just because we are single, do we have to be looking for someone to marry?..."

No, you don't even have to look for someone to date. I think it's just that the possibility however big or small is always there, so you do end up looking.

Another thought is that married life is going to be better. I'd say it would be different, better in some ways, worse in some ways.

How two people end up meeting and getting married is a mystery. I'm happy for the people who do it successfully, and that my siblings are married and gave me nephews and nieces. It's going to be interesting to see how they do in the marriage department.