Think about this...

[UndividedDevotion11]

A question has entered my mind over the last few days....

In singleness, do we ever reach a point where we are good enough or deserving enough to love and to be loved by another person??? Is it mostly based on works and a little bit of faith? Can we ever be good enough or deserving enough for another person??? Please, tell me ur thoughts.

[Rx]

Can we ever be good enough or deserving enough for another person???

Excellent question. The answer is yes. You were born that way.

Does our valuation of others esteem them,
without bias,  for being a creation of
 the most HIGH,  but living in a broken world?

Im thinking of angry people, heavy people, old people, poor people, sick people... [name the social reject] ... even the Hitlers, and Osama's, and yes... even me, at the bottom of the barrel of social slime...

 ... so many feel hated and hide themselves, when indeed
humble outreach is the healing bridge.

"A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly..."

"...whosoever shall not receive you, nor hear you,
 when ye depart thence, shake off the dust
under your feet for a testimony against  them. "

"... you always have the poor with you..."

"... so have I strived to preach the gospel,
 not where Christ was named,
lest I should build upon another man's foundation..."

 

[Hawk]

Are you talking about being rich, thin and tan enough? There is a quip that goes something like "I've found the perfect woman. Unfortunately, I am not the perfect man."

Of course a person can be good enough for another person in a romantic relationship as long as both are in agreement.

It's easy to think someone is out of your league. I know I evaluate myself thinking what would I bring to the plate to make me worthy of someone's affection. Do I make enough money? Am I too short, old or old-fashioned? Could I do what I expect myself to do for another and man up when necessary? On the other hand, she must have something there to offer.

[Rx]

what would I bring to the plate to make me worthy of someone's affection.

Your post brings the marriage of Christ to mind. 

But I see the bride also.... soaring....
...soaring toward a mountain top with all the E she needs to pull thru any dog fight,
...but sorrowfully bound to a sadder course... and the air here is thin...

A dear sister recently quit coming to ps, for now,
repeatedly citing that she was wasting too much time, and I echo that.

Well, maybe the mountain is Chinese economics and productivity;
 maybe a sunspot cycle, maybe an asteroid;
 maybe the Epidemic of Entertainment; maybe...
 there are seven seals...
 but before the ground reaches up and slaps you silly,
 I suggest you too bail folks, to the arms of Christ.

...all that will live godly in Christ Jesus shall suffer persecution...
But continue thou in the things which thou hast learned...

Be patient therefore, brethren, unto the coming of the Lord.
Behold, the husbandman waiteth for the precious fruit of the earth,
 and hath long patience for it, until he receive the early and Latter Rain.

[a sassy sister]

In singleness, I realize that my ability and worthiness of love is not based on other's opinions but on the One who created us. God has already declared and demonstrated that we are not only worthy of God's love, and as such, we should live confidently and humbly in that fact as we live our lives, regardless if that leads to a relationship or not.

[ThyWillBeDone]

No offense, undivided, but, if we are to love as Jesus loved, if we are to love others, as God loves them, you're asking the wrong question.
None of us truly *DESERVES* God's love.  (Remember---for ALL have sinned, & come short of the glory of God)  Who loved who first?    The Bible says, HE loved US 1st.  (reread the *LOVE* chapter--I Corinthians 13) 

Love, *REAL* love, God's kind of love (that we're commanded to love others with, by the lover of our soul!) isn't concerned with "what can I get, or what do I deserve?   That's self-seeking.  [check I Cor. 13:5----Love does not seek it's own.]

Perhaps the question you should be asking, is, is there anyone out there, no matter how bad/evil/ugly/smelly/stinking/rotten/ "the bottom of the barrel of social slime" [I love that Rx!] (should I go on? who is so much so ____, that I don't have to love them?
AKA, maybe *WE* (not just you) should be asking ourselves, should I love others because they *DESERVE* it, or, because I love God, & God loves others, & tells me to do likewise?

In short, if your love is CONDITIONAL, as most people's is, & as the world loves, then yes, there will always be reasons why someone can say to you (or you could say to someone else) I can't love you BECAUSE.... 

HOWEVER, if your love is UNCONDITIONAL, as God loves, & as we are told to love, then you will have a love in your heart, for ALL men (& women) because you will look at them, through God's eyes, & He made *ALL* of us (yes, even the bad/evil/ugly/smelly/stinking/rotten/ "the bottom of the barrel of social slime" & even Rx & me ) , & gave us a soul, & the breathe of life (the animals don't have this!) & made us in His image.

BTW (did you read the *LOVE* chapter?)  LOVE, is greater than faith, & the greatest works, apart from love, PROFIT NOTHING.
Wow!   I love that chapter.    Paul basically contrasts most of the NT, & says, this is great, but, w/o love, it's worthless!

Love isn't something we earn, or can deserve.   If *THAT* was the case, think about how easily we would disown our children!     Remember the story of the prodigal son?    Certainly, he didn't "EARN" or "DESERVE" his father's love, & yet, his father loved him.
We can earn *REWARDS* (a whole nother subject!) but, never love.

If you want healthy relationships, love others In spite of what they do, & not because of it.    I'm so thankful that God loves me in spite of some of the stupid things I do, & not because of anything I've done!