Healing!!!

[Rami]

I had a wonderful healing I just wanted to share.
My former husband is getting remarried, and I am so happy for them!
This joy I feel is a enormous gift to me, as for many years I was caught in resentment, bitterness and obsessions with the harm he had done to me.
I was able to let it go!
It took many years of working on forgiveness, and I thought I would never be completely healed.

I was able to give thanks to God for providing a wonderful woman for him to share the rest of his life with. I truly feel compassion and no longer feel that pain inside my heart over the past. When I let him off the hook, I let me off too.
I was not the woman I should have been in that marriage either, and I know God has used all the pain to deepen my character and to help me become much closer to Him.

I also have been given the gift of a deeper trust in His ways. Nothing I did, or he did can stop God from the plans for good and for a future for me that He has designed. He knows everything and I can trust how He unfolds my life is perfect.

I almost am in shock in the way I feel so free and joyous for this man. I want God to forgive him, and give him and his new wife unity in Him.    The hook of pain is gone!!! I no longer have the fears, or the walls I had built up about being vulnerable again!
I now strive to place my hope in Christ alone because everything else is sand- He is the ONE hope that never disappoints.
Yeah God, THANK YOU!!!
Hope this encourages someone else who might be stuck in pain after a divorce. Keep going, and God will heal! It is painful to face it, but so worth it.  It might seem like a very long endless trial of pain, but there is an end. He made me whole- which is a miracle if you knew what I went through.

Thank you God for loving all of us, having compassion and mercy on those of us who have been deeply wounded. Thank you for your healing touches, and your grace. Thank you for restoring those years of deep sorrow and pain, and bringing us out stronger, wiser and more like you.
In Jesus,
Amen

[Rx]

I no longer have the fears, or the walls I had built up about being vulnerable again!

I apologize for not responding sooner Rami. I'm sure there are first rate posters that are celebrating with you, but sometimes sheer analysis can be shackles on all that... its a difficult topic for a public Christian forum.

I realize I can't FULLY  relate to your loss, because it seems scripture gives less recourse to women after a divorce;  but if your struggle was even 10% of what I encountered losing my three infant kids and wife to her many boyfriends,  then I can affirm that your account is no exaggeration.

There are two things I believe Christians may not forgive, but I often hear them SAY they forgive. One thing is that because marriage is an act of God, you can't for give that, nor does it end in a court room.  AND, you cant forgive a sin of adultery, since the sin is against God, not against you, since you are not the Lawgiver.  That's actually more liberating to someone in your position:  one less concern.

Amazing tho that anyone can ever forgive a spouse's breaches of trust that is given so wholly tho.  And for that I also celebrate with you.  Really when I look back at the ugliness that was going on, I can shut my mouth by simply remembering that I'm the same type of  freekazoid today without ceasing as I see in those men, showing up at my door after dark when I was out of town... etc.

That makes it pretty easy to want to forget actually.  Who wants to be reminded daily of how lousy they are in comparison to someone else's heinous  past.  Sheesh.  I die daily, because I eventually stone myself if it comes to mind. I guess that's a healing also.

"Do not be hasty in the laying on of hands...
Keep yourself pure."

1 Timothy 5:22

[Rami]

Thanks RX!

I thank Jesus that He is the Real God for this real sinful world we live in, and in this sinful flesh we all will battle until we get Home.  Thank God for His Holy Spirit to assist us in all of life.

The point you made about God's forgiveness is very exact.  It is against God we all have sinned.

To be able to have true compassion on him and his future wife- longing for them to be right before the Father through Jesus, enjoying each other as a gift that God provided, gives me a joy I never thought possible. I was  so  fixated  upon my own pain and also the deep sting of being humiliated.

The pain of being humiliated  is about my own self- concern and my ego self,  my flesh. That had to die and took a very long time for me to surrender.

I am now settled in the Truth ;  no one takes my dignity away unless I take myself out of the care of the Father by turning to other gods to esteem me. I am safe in the arms of My Father, as a treasured bride of His, as I come to Him and let Him reflect my worth, as I gaze at His face. When I behold His beauty, I transform into the being He intended me to be, and its glorious!


He takes the scars, the brokenness, the sin, the selfishness, the resentments, the defects of character, all the shame, and replaces them with His peace and joy that no circumstance can shake. He does discipline those He loves, and though the spankings hurt, they are purposeful- to help guide us to right and prosperous paths! I have had my share and I am thankful for every lash allowed to me by the Father who loves me.

I love that He takes every loss- and re-pays us above what we could ask, as we entrust that loss to Him. Maybe not as soon as we all would like to see, but I believe in the,  "land of the living: we all shall see those things we have laid down at His feet, and smile from the depths of our beings at what He did with them.



I am so grateful for our Jesus is our  Redeemer!


RX:  Thank you for sharing some of your story as well. That was honoring. I see more of Jesus in you now.

" To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under Heaven.." Ecclesiastes 3:1

[Johnny1979]

My uncle past away my Dad is taking it well for now but he has to go identify the body please pray

[Fern]

Praying for your family that God will provide His comfort and peace, Johnny, and that He will keep drawing you to a full surrender to Himself.