I had some thoughts about this as I was visiting with some folks that don't share the same convictions I do. I was realizing that my own purity and those things which God has asked me personally not to do, are not things I should be forcing on everyone. God's holiness is a precious thing, and the intimacy that I have with Jesus is based on obedience that I am called to , as a response to that.
I found some frustration in trying to get others to see how they should be like I am, and then felt God was calling me to do as HE asks me to do,and not go around condemning others, or have some superior attitude about the fact that God has placed some restrictions on me that He does not on others. I was reminded that each of us has a unique calling and only God sees the whole parade. He knows what He is making in each of our lives.
I am not saying to encourage sin, but there are within orthodoxy some freedom in how God chooses to lead each of us. I have been single a long time, and in dialoging with lots of long term singles I see that is a tendency we can have. I need only commune with Him, and follow His lead in my own life- I know that pleases Him that I value his personal direction for me , rather than be concerned with how he is leading others.
For instance, I felt God was sharing with me to not have sustained eye contact with men. It is amazing how this one thing He has told me to do has helped me in general not to be seductive. I am so thankful for the intimate knowledge and personal care God gives me everyday. I am so blessed that God is so in love with me and has my very best in mind. However I would be mistaken to tell all women to do that- what He has told me to correct in my own behavior. It doesn't make me better or more pure than anyone else-
It is so easy to react to the world- or against it, and not be eyeing God alone- for His wisdom that is wanting to give us freedom, joy and be fully alive, not repressed.
I think some times it is easy to get caught up as a committed Christian single in how " pure" we are being, and look down on others who are not being strict with themselves in the same exact ways we are. God knows what each of us needs when, and how. He is not a God who is trying to de-sexualize us, or neuter us. I think His intent is to RE- sexualize me His way, for His purpose which is a delight to him , and to me!
I think He delights in the fact He made me a woman, and wants me to fully enjoy it. He doesn't want me to be ripped off because He does treasure the sacred inside me. Jesus is the ulitmate romantic.
Glad I don't have to go around judging everyone else, and can fully enjoy the very special place I have in His heart as a pearl of great price!
Happy single day to all!